Suggestions?

So Stella has already begun to test her boundaries (and our limits). She's been teething something awful, yet as we're at the tail end of another round of teeth, I'm starting to notice her independence. She has started refusing to sit in her high chair, her car seat, the stroller... she does NOT want to take a nap, she does not want to eat regular food anymore, save for Joe's Os, and she gets extremely pissy with us when we take something away (Scupper's dog toys). She twists and turns so much when I try to change her diaper, i am now proficient putting the diaper on when she is laying on her stomach. (and don't even ask about her tantrum when I tried to change a poo diaper today.... let's just say that there is definitely some clean up going on).

So I'm thinking that i have to learn how I'm supposed to deal with the next step. If anyone has any good parenting books out there with a philosophy that you've appreciated, let me know. I'm all ears, believe me. Yes, I'm a book nerd and need to at review something because I'm definitely convinced there are parts of parenting that are not innate. I figure there are child psychologists out there that probably know a thing or two. And while I practically banged my head against a wall reading all those sleep books and wondering why "my child wasn't like that" I know now how to filter, adjust, and take away tidbits that seem appropriate to our daughter.

So help, you out there in the blogosphere!